A Piece of You

On Parent-Child Estrangement

Dear Reader;

Estrangement between adult children and their parents seems to be reaching a new high. The Covid debacle drove deep wedges into many families, and add to that heightened themes of gender confusion and general woke-ness, and we seem to be living a generational divide that has taken many loving parents by surprise.

Parents who thought they did everything they could, who may have been rebels themselves in their own youth and who deeply care about their kids, are being shut out of their children’s lives. It is a rift which leaves no one happy.

If this is something you may be experiencing in your family, I recommend the wonderful Tina Gilbertson who gently and thoroughly walks parents through an understanding of what may have happened, and how to heal. She speaks with a calm and understanding voice in times of heartbreak and misunderstanding.

From my own guides, the following transmission offers guidance received for a mother who caught a glimpse of her distant daughter, and discovered an invitation to return to love.

A PIECE OF YOU

Today
perhaps for the first time
you saw yourself in her eyes
and perhaps then
you understood her
a little better
recognized how inseparable 
is your fear
recognized
that a piece of her
is in you
and a piece of you
is in her
and as such
you are made of one another
and can never be lost
from the self
in her soul

She knows you
better than you know yourself
but she cannot show you
she cannot tell you
until 
in your deepest heart
you are ready to hear
that her distance from you
is your distance from yourself

Now do not be mistaken
as she has her own sparkling
heart-breaking path
and this
you cannot walk for her

But choose now
to spend time with your guilt
and your despair
for that which you do
for you
is a gift of Grace
for her
This work is yours
to find in your own silence

Your love?
Let it free flow
Practice detaching love
from expectation
and find joy
in the opportunity
to feel what you feel for her

Love does not hurt
but only your fear to lose it
So let Love be your own 
within you
and in the radiance
you share

Photo by Soroush Karimi on Unsplash

The love you allow
in you
may sooner find
the very same song
within her
as you 
meet you
making all the space
in the world
for all the parts 
and pieces
of her
that are absolutely new

For of course
she is born
a free and absolute being
and when she travels far
in a strange land
she owes nothing
but her own truth
to you

Remember 
in all your mistakes
you have done no wrong
for there is nothing beyond
the possibility
of healing
The soothing
of your heart
will arrive
on the winds of trust

Save some love
for yourself
There is plenty
to share



much love,
Adi